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Obsession or Excuse

Sun, Feb 5th 2012

I've been married for 2 years and love my husband. But!!! I'm not too happy about his relationship with his ex.

My husband is really into dogs and I don't mind that. We recently moved out of state away from his ex. Here's the catch. They have a dog and he keeps in touch with her for the dog, "Supposedly." I don't know if he has an obsession with dogs or he's making an excuse to keep in touch with his ex.

We rescued a dog from an animal shelter and I feel like that didn't help him forget this other dog. I maybe a jealous chick but I've got my reasons. How is it possible to keep in touch with his ex just for a dog as if it was a child. I just can't understand it.

I heard so many bad things about this woman from many people including my husband. So, why keep in touch with someone like that. It doesn't seem right to me!! I have even spoken to her and she doesn't seem mean but, when I talk about the dog and to keep in touch with me not my husband, she gets offensive and texts my husband and, of course, I see the texts she writes without him knowing it. She texts bad things about me and he doesn't even defend me. 

I want him to keep his distance from her. I'm the wife and I should be the one feeling comfortable about the situation. He needs to give me some respect as his wife and take into consideration my feelings.

Please help!! What should I do???

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