Change of Heart After Parent's DeathTue, Oct 30th 2012
My father died suddenly three weeks ago. He and I were very close and I could never have imagined what life would be like without him until I had no other choice. I'm 25 years old.
At the beginning, my boyfriend of almost a year was taking care of a lot for me. He was speaking with my boss, staying with me on the day I found out, and so on. However, my ex boyfriend has also been there for me. His mother died about two years ago and we got back together after I talked him through it. We had been together on and off for years before that. We were never officially a couple because he lives far away, and as a result, we never got to give things a fair shot. I ended things after some friends convinced me he wasn't treating me well but he and I never talked through it.
His feelings haven't faded since I ended things. As my ex and I have been talking more I feel the chemistry coming back. I'm not sure if it's just because of the situation, but the chemistry is lessening with my current boyfriend. I felt this happening somewhat before all of this happened but now that my feelings for my ex are getting stronger I'm feeling even more conflicted.
I don't know how to make an informed decision about this.
I hate the idea of hurting my boyfriend but I don't know if I'm stringing him along, either.
Any advice would be much appreciated!
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