Co-Dependent MotherSun, Nov 18th 2012
My mother has been in an out of abusive realationships since I was 11 or so. It all started when she had an affair and left my dad. She has no desire to be single and claims she doesn't know how. I have tried giving her numbers and pamphlets on places to get help. But, to my dismay, she never does!
I am a newly-wed, mother of one, and I recently found that I am expecting. I cannot handle her silly ideas of "love" anymore. I have tried breaking communications and ties, giving her a choice to get healthy or not have us in her life. All she does is send pictures and harrassing messages to my husband saying he took me away.
Last night she went to a new low, going on a date, while she is also in a unhealthy realationship, with a guy who supposedly has been trying to get her attention online for four years! I am afraid they are going to find my mother in a ditch raped and murdered one day. But she will not admit she has a problem.
Should I just back out of her life all together or try and get a referral for an intense co-dependency and depression program? I do know my family, the whole family, has been trying to get thru to her for years! I have to get this stress out of my life!
Please help me figure this out. Thank you!
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