Am I Controlling ?Sun, Oct 27th 2013
Ok, I have a long distant relationship with a person I have meet on the Internet. We talk every night on Skype and he is supposed to come and be with me. However, due to his job he cancelled his pending trip and its now delayed. Everything is going fine but, in my mind, I can't help but feel that he lies to me about certain things. I have never caught him in a lie but I just feel that way. He left for a weekend trip 3 weeks back and he tried really hard to contact me this week. He left again with the same people but I felt like he did not try as hard to let me know what was happening. He takes forever to text me back and I don't know what to think?
Am I creating this non existing issue in my mind? Its fair to say I am going through a divorce and I have a soon to be one year old child. I was over-weight but lost all of it. I am younger than he is. I am in my 20s and he is in his 50 s . Am I over thinking this? How can I stop myself from doing this? I love him and he claims to love me. I want to build a life with him, I really do, but I am scared that he will abandon me like my ex husband did. Please help me!
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