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Should I Just Be Alone For Now?

Wed, Aug 31st 2005

Hello. I was married for 4 years and divorced about 1 1/2 years ago. He has a short temper and a drinking problem. I have never stopped loving him though. He moved out of state about 6 months ago...to start over new. I have been dating since then, trying to fall in love again with no success. I have been seeing someone new, but still find myself calling my ex-husband to see how he is doing. Well, recently I was at home watching a movie with my boyfriend and my ex-husband came knocking on my door. He drove 25 hours by himself, quit his job, and came to see me. Well he wanted to surprise me...he certainly did. I told him that he cannot just be coming without calling first. He knew my boyfriend was there and felt very hurt. He ended up calling and I told him that I don't love him anymore, which is entirely untrue, but I don't want to give him false hope. Back when we were married we went to counseling and my husband didn't want to tell the counselor the full story about our relationship...I truly don't think that it will work. I explained everything to my boyfriend who was quite understanding. Not happy, but understanding. I am so confused! I feel awful for my ex-husband and my boyfriend. Do you think that I should just be alone for now. I don't know how to approach the subject.

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