I suspect that my husband is cheatingWed, Feb 8th 2006
I suspect that my husband is cheating. About a month ago I got suspicious of his behavior and snooped on his cell phone. I discovered that he had been talking to and text messaging a girl he had never told me about. When confronted, he explained she was one of his customers (he's a delivery driver) and he was trying to set her up with one of his friends. He promised to stop speaking to her, which he has. However, a couple of days ago I found his cell phone laying on the couch and it was already on with a message flashing. The message was from another girl saying yes to his message to her that they meet for a drink sometime. I can't confront him about this because then he'll accuse me of snooping on his phone again, which I honestly wasn't. But this is eating me up inside. If he is happily married, as he says, then why is he giving his number to other women and acting like he's single? I simply can't trust him and become suspicious now whenever he leaves the house or takes his cell phone with him. We've only been married for 9 months and this has never been a problem - we've always trusted one another and were like best friends. We promised each other that if either one of us ever became unhappy in the marriage or felt we'd be better off with somebody else, that we would respect each other enough to be honest and tell each other. How can I get over this? I literally can't eat, sleep or function normally - all I think about is what I found.
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