He's selfish, disrespectful and irresponsibleMon, May 15th 2006
I have been with my husband for 5 years. We have a 3 year old daughter together. We have really great times together but we also have super bad times. He is very verbal with me. Most of the time I cannot view my opinion or even just say something is bothering me in fear that a huge fight will happen, usually just him yelling, calling me names & threatening a divorce. He spends a lot of money on what I think are stupid things. We live at home with his parents temporarily until we find a place. But instead of saving he spends. Like golf clubs, a new car. I supposedly have no say in it cause it's his money. So if I tell him please don't get that car. I wanna get a house & move out of here. He says we will. Don't worry about what I'm spending MY money on. All my bills will be paid. Yeah, here at his parents he has none. I want to have things like a house. I drive an old used car & I'm the one who halls our daughter around 99% of the time. He has has 6 or 7 cars since we've been together. I have had 2 only because the first one just stop running. I cant afford a car payment cause I pay too much for day care. He doesn't help me with day care. He says cause he's got other bills that he doesn't have money to help me. We have separate accounts because of his spending problems. I just really need advise from someone who doesn't know either of us. He disrespects me all the time in front of our friends. Somehow everything is always my fault, or at least leads to someway of making it my fault. He's selfish, disrespectful and irresponsible. I really doesn't know what to do. I can't tell him that in fear of a divorce or him screaming at me or throwing something. I don't want to live like that but I don't want to end our marriage and our family if it can be saved. Please help me
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