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What is wrong with me? I Don't care anymore...

Sun, Sep 24th 2006

My Life SUX! I'm a 36 year old woman, unmarried, without children. I Don't enjoy anything.I Don't look forward to anything. Recently, I just got a new job. It's a good job (pay, benefits, incentives, worthwhile). I'm now starting to find fault with it( coworker jealously, backbiting, cliques). I quit my previous job because, I was burnt-out. The previous job was back breaking, the pay paltry, and it was'nt meaningful. Yet, I felt the coworkers were cohesive. I felt some support. I now don't have any... It's hard especially when I come home and find there's no one to talk to. My boyfriend offers no support. In my previous employment I had "doable" hours. Our hours coincided where we could spend time together. I had time to make arrangements for our dates(meal, entertainment,etc.) Now our(myboyfriend&I) work schedules are different. He wants to get together during the same times that we used to, regardless, of the effect on my time. I want us to come to a middle ground. I work on weekends he does not. So, I was figurin' we could spend some weeknights and some weekends together. He does'nt want to sacrifice. That's selfish to me. I'm starting to lose interest. I don't care anymore. The people, with whom, I've tried to make friends with only seem interested when it benefits them. The same goes for my family. The holidays don't excite me. I plan to work for the holidays, to avoid the holiday "phonies." Every Christmas, I go broke, buying gifts for people who don't appreciate them. I've had other men approach me. I've considered their advances, considering my current situation. It's soothes my ego to know they're interested. But, I don't do anything. Maybe I'm a one guy gal. Maybe, I just want to maintain the status quo. Maybe, I don't trust anyone since I've been hurt. Maybe, I don't care.



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