Can he be changed?Wed, Mar 26th 2008
My brother has been abusive and aggressive since we were young children. He has been to prison for burglary and assault when he was a teenager. He has a beautiful house 2 children and girlfriend who he mentally and sexually abuses and repeatedly cheats on. He shows no remorse and if you ask him why? he says he doesn't know why he does theses things because his girlfriend is wonderful. He says he is incapable of loving anyone. He drinks to get drunk and takes cocaine. He's recently hit rock bottom when his girlfriend of 10 yrs discovered he has another secret child who lives in the same area. She had an inkling about his years ago but he denied it, everybody in the area knew about it. She's finally thrown him out and I've taken him in, he's admitted he's a nasty person. We watched a lot of domestic abuse when we were young, my mum was a drunk and we weren't shown any love or affection. She will not show any remorse for anything she does, i think she's a horrible person. Is there any hope for him to change? I've booked an appointment for the doctor to try and get some counselling but is there any point in going through all this with him? I know he wont tell the doctor what's going on so I thought I'd go with him and tell all.
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