Understanding my sonSun, Apr 20th 2008
I have been this ongoing problem with my son, he is 25 and his father and I divorced when he was 16, he was all for the divorce so that isn't the issue. He lives on his own and ever since our relationship has changed. He spends all holidays with his father's side of the family, he forgets my birthday and very seldom calls me, I rarely see him. When I try to talk to him about how this is hurting me and my questions as to why he never spends holidays with me, he says that he has always spent holidays with my ex's side of family. And he doesn't understand why I am so hurt. It feels as though I am second and not important. I am alone and know some of this is due to me feeling alone. But at the same time this is not what I wanted our relationship to be. I am his mother and feel so hurt when he can't even call or remember my birthday. Holidays are all spent with his grandparents and that side of the family. This is making me so hurt and depressed. Any advice would be appreciated, thank you.
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