So-CalledTue, Nov 17th 1998
My fiancee recently visited her alma mater and spend the weekend with her so-called "best friend" who basically ruined her weekend by trying to ruin our relationship. We are extremely happy and content with each other, and she is not very happy with her fiance and has cheated on him 3 times since they got engaged. Her friend even went so far as to encourage their mutual male friend to "hang in there since 'we' won't last." She also stated that she is marrying me for my money and that she and her fiance think I am not the right one for her. Yet, neither of them has ever met me in person. Her friend is an only child and is extremely spoiled. My fiancee returned from the trip in tears and had nightmares that someone she trusted and cared about would do this to her. She had invited her to be a matron of honor before this episode and doesn't know what to do to resolve this. I don't want to come between her and her jealous friend. What can I do to help my fiancee see her friend for who she really is? How should I proceed so that I don't become the "bad guy" in this?
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