Wife of 21 Years Has a BoyfriendMon, Mar 13th 2006
My wife of 21 years has a boyfriend. She moved out of the house 6 weeks ago. I have been faithful and have tried to be a good husband and put family first during our time together. I wanted to do marriage counseling but she said that I wouldn't go when she mentioned it in passing at one time. Since I value her, the kids and the family I have a hard time with this remark. She had let our son's girl friend move into the house and created less space for our own needs. By her own remarks she said she has lost her home to the kids. 3 years ago her grandfather died, her aunt (4 yrs older) and father died within months of each other. I paid for her to finish her college degree(a year ago) and the stress from her job is great at times. It's like she's morphed into a person the kids and I don't know anymore. What should I do? Should I let her go, should I hope for reconciliation (I do love her). I am at a loss even with the counseling I am doing. Thanks for the response.
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